EDITED: I really got worked up but that won't solve anything and least of all this situation. Therefor I have deleted this content, mostly. I do regret this whole discussion as I let my tempers go off. I'm gonna try my plan, which is based on lots of verbal communication with him, and see where that goes. I don't at all feel as worked up as I was before.
Also note the rest of the group are probably fairly cool with him.
Hey, mate, don't take it too hard. Take into consideration that we're brainstorming under limited information here. It's inevitable that some extreme opinions and suggestions pop up - apparently we seem to mentally replace your guy with our most problematic experience after all, myself included I personally don't think the whole issue is worth being so worked up over - it's just harder to have your empathy towards someone we don't know and try to partially reconstruct based on fragmentary knowledge.
Anyway, I say you do it your way wherever it may lead, and, I cannot stress enough, if you need technical or narrative advice to handle certain steps along the road, we'll be all too happy to oblige - on the other hand, let the rest of it go, and don't let any of us tell you what to do with your friend. You know the situation along with the gaming and group dynamics best; you decide, period.
And if there's further /tg/-like unmoderated drama, Emperor help me, I'll gladly report myself to the nearest Commissar immediately (Long Live Friend Computer! Fun Is Mandatory! Failure to Report Unhappiness Is Treason! Treason Is Punishable by Death!)
Edited by musungu