Does the supporter get to declare defenders before or after the Lord Commander has the opportunity to take on the challenge (assuming a MIL challenge and no defenders declared)?
Support
In addition, when a player you support is attacked by another player, if the defending player declares no defenders, you may declare any number of your own eligible characters as defenders to that challenge.
Lord Commander of the Kingsguard
When an opponent is attacked by another opponent in a MIL challenge and decides not to declare any defenders, you can use this title to change the target of the attack.
Bonus question: since both of these effects refer to not declaring defenders, are they usable if some character becomes a defender through a card effect (Horseback Archers, Catelyn Stark LoW)?