The book says that you can't raise a ring above 3 during character creation and that if a choice would do so to pick a different ring instead. Does that mean you can still make the choice that would normally raise the ring above 3 but pick a different ring or you have to make a different choice?
For example, if I'm making a Kuni Purifier even choosing Void as the Kuni family ring it maxes the Earth ring. So could I not choose that they stand out at their school through thoroughness, patience, or calm or could I choose that (for narrative purposes) and just essentially get a free ring increase of my choice?