OK. I wanted to pose a question since I've seen it come up multiple times in various threads here:
Poe Dameron. Villianized in the TLJ for leading his fighter wing and destroying a First Order Dreadnought (also I've seen him called "Hero of the FO", I'm assuming due to the transports being attacked). I understand that the Resistance's resources are limited, and the loss of a strategic bomber squadron is a heavy blow... but while we're treated to a heavy handed "growth" arc for Poe... may I present this perspective? Maybe Poe Dameron is the only person in Resistance leadership that has basic math skills.
Lets run the numbers: 7 resistance bombers at 5 crew each: 35 resistance crew and pilots. Time to manufacture? One day? A week at most? Time to train pilots/crew? A few years?
1 Mandator IV class siege dreadnought: 215,000 crew, (53,000 officers, 140,000 enlisted, 22,000 stormtroopers). Time to manufacture? Years. Probably the whole project of one (or more) planetary shipyards. Time to train crew? Literal hundreds of lifetimes?
Lets be frank. To defeat the First Order, the Resistance's ONLY chance is to unite the Republic's remaining forces to stand against the First Order (obviously the Resistance's 4 ships wouldn't stand a chance against 2 Star Destroyers, a fraction of what we see in TLJ). In this case, the value of a superdreadnought vs a bomber wing is a no-brainer. The superdreadnought is literally a "fleet killer", seemingly capable of destroying any highly shielded (and armored) capital ship every few minutes. In this light, I'm surprised by the decision by Leia (and by extension, the rest of Resistance command). Was there some other, high priority target with less defenses than a dreadnought stripped of its anti-fighter guns and with delayed fighter launches?
I understand that he disobeyed a direct order. He'd probably be written up. Demotion is... possible, if not necessarily probable. But how could any military strategist discount the value of what he'd done? In light of this, the demotion seems... petty, at best. A "You didn't listen to me, even though I was wrong". Don't get me wrong, I've been in the military, I know that this isn't super uncommon. But I'd rather not have it come from one of the revered characters in the series.
Tangentially, the fleet didn't have to wait for him. All of the strike craft were hyperspace capable. If it wasn't for plot convenience the capital ships should have jumped when the final pod landed and rendezvoused with the strike craft after the attack. Immediate danger solved.
I mean, part of being in a military unit during a war is recognizing the fact that some of the people under your command will die, and to make their sacrifice worthwhile. I think that the "lesson" that he's "taught" in TLJ is directly contrary to that. The idea that he must protect all the people under his command to the exclusion of anything else (calling off Finn from the superlaser battery exchanges his life for that of the entire Resistance, if it wasn't for a Deus ex Rey) is fundamentally counter to the idea of a military unit.
For the record, I understand the whole "Poe's a hothead who learned to be more level headed in TLJ". I GET what they were "going for". But 1. He was a hothead with sound strategic insight 2. "Level headed", while great for people directly onscreen, doesn't make for a great leader of the Resistance, which, inherently will need risks to achieve its goals.
Finally, I understand that the intelligence leak about the transports plays into the "Hero of the First Order". But a) Finn never told him that it was an open channel to a (demonstrably) untrustworthy person and b) even assuming a ship can only track one size of ship at a time (unprecedented in the canon so far) do you think not ONE of the 6+ Star Destroyers would be "scanning for fighters" in case the Raddus launched anything small? Ridiculous. c) it's definitely something I could see the FO trying to make the prisoners feel guilty for, even if not true, to try to get them to spill more intel.
PS. This doesn't even go into the toxic command structure (and horrible planning) promoted by the command in TLJ. For the record, I have no hatred for women, people with purple hair, or paleobotanists, but it's a miracle Admiral Holdo got anywhere with that leadership style.