Just because you feel a certain way, doesn't make it true for everyone else.
I consider the forums a part of the community at large and a place to share info and discuss things. My local gaming groups are much more personal to deal with than most people here - largely because you don't know the person on the other side of the screen.
I contribute here and feel it's worthwhile. Sometimes there is negative feedback, but sometimes positive. There is a balance.
The last regional I attended felt very impersonal and there were some groups there that held themselves apart with a somewhat arrogant attitude toward people they didn't know. So I didn't feel a part of that community, but I still knew I was an Xwing player and part of a bigger whole. Finished Top 16 and a friend finished 2nd.
I prefer small events more than the bigger ones, because there is definitely more of a sense of a community, with people not so hung up on getting to win paper and plastic. My last tournament I took enough packs of Star Wars trading cards so that everyone who came got one. Everybody appreciated it and it made the event a little more fun, because people weren't hung up on the prizes from the OP kit so much.
A person who lives in NYC can come from different boroughs and be vastly different in their views and circumstances. But still, they're all New Yorkers.
Down here in the South - their is a vast difference in people from different states and cities, but we still cling to being Southern.
Why can't Xwing be the same? Different people, with different motivations and expectations, but we're all still here for Xwing.