Most kind, Beatty, thank you.
I try to be respectful of others' views on forums such as this, because we are really here to talk about our love for Star Wars, especially in the gaming realm. (I still have yet to try Armada as a game. I largely get the miniatures to serve as 3D references for when I build my own CG versions of such models.)
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I do agree, different mindsets can have civil discourse if they consider the words of the other, and choose their own words carefully with respect. Extreme mindsets on both sides can end up being a wee bit too passionate about their own beliefs and opinions, to the exclusion of the other.... and then nothing gets considered or resolved.
Young adults today did not grow up in our generation, where we were a bit more thick-skinned. A time when we didn't need "trigger warnings" on our movies and shows. (All we needed was G, PG, PG-13, and R). A time when we trusted our childrens' intelligence when it came to video games, even when they started getting a bit more intense in content.. (Not that I have children....'cause I don't.
) When we understood that victory and defeat are supposed to have very different feelings, and that we couldn't always get what we want. That one could be magnanimous in victory, and gracious in defeat. Where we could watch movies like "Blazing Saddles" or "The Kentucky Fried Movie" and understand that such movies were meant for all of us to laugh at ourselves as well as each other. And hindsight goes on.
Believe me, I'm no angel in the matter. I think it is easier in the written forum to be able to have civil discourse, because the participants have time to consider what it is they want to say, and how to say it without being disruptive or disrespectful. Even if someone says something that rubs the other(s) the wrong way, the respondents can still return fire with civility and class. In real-time, vocal discussion, people are often put to the test on how well they can comport themselves over potentially heated issues. There have been plenty of times in forums where my views have upset others....although certainly not intentionally.
As Henry VIII said in The Tudors: Honor and virtue can be redeemed and recovered. Time cannot.
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And yes, 2016 has not been a very good year..
I have appreciated your tone very much Martok2112 (even as a self-identified SJW, I embrace the term), but disagree heartily with your sentiments.
One thing about your description of "this generation" (I'm kind of in the middle, born a touch early for millenials, too late for the previous gen), remember that this generation very much is what was made of them by your generation. All the participation trophies, the "special snowflake" education, all of that was given and implemented by your generation (and I'm not necessarily agreeing with you that they're negatives. This generation gets dumped on rather unfairly quite a bit by the older generations that handed them a really sh*tty situation).
No, you haven't had a black person say those things to you, because for the most part "black person" when used casually isn't seen as a slur, by a great many african americans. Now, when you're speakling generally, to the public at large, there may be people who do take offense to the term, and really, like it's really any extra effort. I mean, it is four more syllables. That might make your talk or paper a whole 30 seconds longer by the end. /s
Also, YOU didn't need trigger warnings and safe spaces as a kid or young adult, that does not mean that they are somehow unnecessary or indicative of some sort of inherent weakness in the current generation of young adults. We grow as a society, we learn things. We make mistakes and we try to correct them. It is the driving force that has made us the dominant species on this planet, the desire to do better. What you are seeing today is the current iteration of that drive. Mental health is a real thing, and it has to be maintained just as strenuously as physical health. Just as eating junk food reduces your physical health; constant re-exposure or reactivation of past trauma degrades your mental health. Now, my form of PTSD stems from my time in the Army, I get anxious driving sometimes (particularly if tired or already anxious) and around the 4th of July I get a touch jumpy. Some people, on the other hand, have it from other traumas, from DV, from childhood abuse (both emotional and physical), from deprivation (poverty and hunger, sickness), and from a host of other sources. Now, we can't anticipate every trigger, but we can think of the most common ones (sexual violence, combat, and abuse) when we write, and give a friendly warning. I endured quite a bit of emotional abuse as a child from both my mother and my siblings. I have a really difficult time watching movies with abuse, or reading articles about such, unless I'm in a good place. A trigger warning at the top of the article lets me know to avoid it on days when I'm not in that good place. Sorry if they make you read a bit more, or ask you to write a bit more, but they exist for a darn good reason, even if that reason doesn't apply to you.
The reason you think people in your generation didn't "need them" is because your generation was shamed and denigrated much harder for showing "weakness", i.e. mental health issues. Mental illness was a complete stigma then (now it's just a fairly huge one, but things are getting better thanks to scrappy young adults and their older allies).
Now, about the movies, I guarantee you plenty of people have ALWAYS been insulted and hurt by them (and a great many others), but like with mental illness they just couldn't say anything about it, not if they didn't want to just make it worse. What you are seeing today is an environment that's been straight up burned out of that jungle of judgement to leave room for people to express this, a sort of hidden base if you will from which to fight the pervasive stereotyping and coating that happens in nearly all of media (seriously, look up "***** coating" of "color coating" sometime with respect to media).
You seem to be approaching this from a somewhat more open mind, but still from an insistence that what was there before is inherently better because it's what you grew up with. Being sandwiched between the generations gives me a perspective a bit different from either viewpoint (though I lean more to the side of those pushing for more inclusivity and consideration, in the classical definition of a liberal I push for change because "natural social evolution" is too **** slow where basic human rights and dignity are concerned).
Signed,
Your friendly neighborhood transwoman pansexual military-veteran gamer