I went to my 2nd bi-weekly xwing event last week. It was a lot of fun, but still learning and I made a lot of mistakes. No big deal. One thread here (rules lawyering) reminder me of an opponent that left me feeling helpless.
Now in the moment, I ended up winning so I let things slide. But had things gone different, I would probably still feel really cheated. He was decloaking and bumped my ship, but it was obvious he needed this decloak to go his way (he hit an asteroid due to block during movement step). He was blocked by a good amount. He pushed my ship back (quarter of an inch?), I sort of blurted out in confusion "Doesn't look like it'll fit." As a newbie the phantom is a mystical creature, so it wasn't obvious in the moment why this mattered so much to my opponent.
He a few turns later was K-turning a Defender over my Shadowcaster. It looked really tight. He kind of did this fast place template loosely against ship grab ship action, then dropped nearly touching Shadowcaster. He obviously was upset about his phantom landing on a rock, so I decided to bite my tongue.
Lastly, I could understand if all his play were sloppy, but they were not.
In restrospect, his style was almost practiced and aggressive. He moved in such a way that forced me to say something uncomfortable. I've played magic the gathering in several tournaments, so I'm not afraid to call a judge. The problem is I ran the conversations in my head and it was always akward. In mtg, you know a trigger was missed, mechanic is wrong, etc. 99% when I called a judge I knew I was right going into the conversation, but I didn't want to argue with my opponent. Now if I call a judge, "My opponent moved his ship sloppy" or some variation. It's his word against mine. How can I prove he was one tenth of an inch off? Every interaction feels confrontational.
There was a few minor other moments, but the 2 mentioned were massively game changing. It wasn't even the movements, it was the casual bravado of "I challenge you to say something" vibe I got. Or "I'm going to do this, worst case I apologize and take it back." Either way, I become the bad guy.