There are more ways than just accept the tournament scene or quit the game. Casual X-wing is an utterly viable alternative.
I"m not saying he has to play in tournaments, use meta lists, or anything vaguely like that. He said he wanted to understand the game better, so I was trying to provide some advice on how to accomplish that.
Points 1, 3, and 4 can be skipped by netlisting. You'll be able to get a grasp on what upgrades combo well with certain other upgrades and pilot abilities, and you'll be able to focus on just playing the game well instead of being stuck with an awful squad for multiple rounds.
Well, to an extent. But you can run a net list better if you understand why it's put together that way than just copying the list and not knowing what to do with it.
Basically, I'm in the "teach a man to fish" camp. Giving him a list and a brief explanation of it will help him today, but it's not as good for the longer term.