Who gets frustrated at themselves?

By Krynn007, in X-Wing

Everyone gets frustrated at themselves at some point. Just hang in there, fly casual. It's a game, after all. I was pretty salty with myself earlier today. It was the last game of our league and I was solidly in first place. I could have not shown up today, but I wanted to play. So the result of the game didn't matter to me whatsoever, nor did it to the other player.

But I made too many stupid mistakes. Accidentally block myself, hit 2 asteroids out of my own stupidity. I hit one on a risk to save my Y wing and ensure it had a shot.

I was playing against a pair of IGs. Brought Emon, two Ys with TLT and proxy, lotta bombs today. The Y was in a bad spot. I was certain his next round would be the death of him, so I went a little crazy and, in order to get in a VERY unexpected position, pulled a 4K over a rock. That rock dealt me a crit, which led to a direct hit, which wiped my little guy off the board entirely. The salt was strong with this one.

But just relax. Everything will be okay!

You gotta let them ***** go Krynn learn to forgive yourself. As the great Lily Tomlin said, "Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past."

Obsessing over it does nothing for ya, gotta move on holmes, just enjoy playing this great game.

Kyrnn, I'm certainly in the same boat as you. Although it sounds silly, getting stomped on in the game by my kids has certainly of late allowed me to learn how to lose in a better way. Like you I can happily admit the loss is always with me, it's a fault that I didn't correct in the game etc. I take that energy and immediately put it into thoughts of squad building or reviewing the game in my head to see what could have gone differently, sometimes it's just the dice and their blanks and that's plain frustrating.

Gosh, my last tournament I had one modified win. I went into the thing being like "Yeah, let me do this, last time with this crowd I was third, time for a win!". And then I only lost. After the second loss I was really frustrated, but then I realized that the game is fun and I could still enjoy the day full of games and i did just that. I took the next few games with a casual attitude and went home with a good feeling. Sometimes you got to realize that it just isn't your day and that it is time for other guys to take the top spots.

Well, I can safely say you're not alone in getting frustrated at yourself for making mistakes. I lost a game at Regionals last year by criting a shieldless HLC Scyk on a debris field, and then proceeded to lose the following two games by being still focused on that mistake (as up until the Scyk died, I had the game in the bag). However, in every loss, I recognized that I made a poor decision (or multiple ones) and because of that, I am able to learn from them and get better. That being said, it can be really hard to maintain dispassion when the mistake happened last turn, and may cost you the game, though I think the thing to realize is that you need too keep the mentality of "playing to win" rather than "playing to not lose." If you think you've already lost, you may blind yourself for ways to get back in.

Lastly, having self-awareness of how prone you may be to tilting can help you better recognize when you are tilted, so you can catch yourself, and as others have said above, take a deep breath, and bring yourself out of it.

I've been in a slump lately myself and it has been frustrating, so I feel ya.

I've been "out-coaching" myself with complicated openings that, if timed right, would give me a very early advantage. But I haven't been timing it right, or I misjudge the distances a little bit and the whole thing backfires. Yet I can't seem to stop trying it...

I've also been way over-confident in my ability to eyeball maneuvers. I've had a slew of mistakes assigning maneuvers, especially on ships on my opponent's side of the board. I even flew Dash off the board on turn 4 last week! All of these mistakes could've been avoided if I took the time to take a good top-down look at the ships before just tossing a dial out.

I've also been incredibly frustrated with the dice, which is kind of a compounding frustration. I generally don't allow myself to complain about dice because there's no way to improve it, so being frustrated about rolls leads to more frustration about breaking that rule! Really, I think it comes down to lately I've been relying on the dice more than I ought to. I've been using actions for barrel rolls and boosts to try to gain a positional advantage, or I'm bumping or something and I NEED the dice to help me out. And they haven't been.

The way I try to look at the game, and life in general, is to focus on controlling what you can. As long as I put myself in a position to succeed, I can't be disappointed--no matter the result. I've just had a much harder time maintaining that perspective lately.

I get kinda miffed if I lose. So what I do is alternate between Xwing and armada. Letting myself take a break of each game.

I would highly recommend you get another addiction. Maybe the new rebellion board game. That looks like great casual fun.

You, my friend, could do with a healthy dose of stoicism.

I get mad when I mess up manuevering my swarm, which then causes a traffic jam that I can never get out of. But I do find that if I let it bother me too much, it ruins the rest of the game. Frustration tends to cause the game to spiral downward if you allow it to dominate your thinking.

All the time.

AND IN THE GAME.