How long ago did Kylo Ren fall to the dark side? This is perhaps one of the most important questions to me. Because it sets everything else in motion. I get the feeling it's been approx 5 years.
We know that this event spun everything else in motion. Luke was training a bunch of new Jedi. They may or may not still be alive. (I suspect they are). We know that when Ben Solo turned to the Dark Side, he "destroyed" the whole thing, IE Luke's Jedi Academy. Luke then blamed himself and went into hiding.
I'm also under the impression that Luke's departure lead to the rise of the first order. His absence somehow allowed them to flourish. Now we don't know how strong the 1st order actually is. We know they built an amazing weapon, but we don't know if perhaps, in the new canon, the Emperor had already started in years ago.
I've also heard some compelling theories about Rey, and some of them are strictly dependent on when Luke went into hiding, because if she was in ANY way involved with that situation it would have had to have been close to 15 or so years ago. (Assuming Rey's character is around 21 yrs old -ish?) And Ben looks to be roughly the same age as Rey, so if it happened 15 years ago, he'd have been almost a baby - and I have a hard time believing that a child that young could effectively ruin Luke Skywalker.
So It seems like Ben became Kylo Ren only a few years ago. He hasn't been evil for THAT long. And if I'm right on that, than Rey's orphanage would seem to have nothing to do with Ben Solo's turn to the Dark side.....
However he KNEW who she was... which makes me wonder.