Is there a general consensus on whether it's better to play first or second?
I've only played a couple times. In my experience, if you have 3 capital ships and your opponent has 2, going second can be very difficult. If you're trying to concentrate fire on a single ship, that ship has an opportunity to move to the best possible defensive position before you get to fire.
If it's two vs. two or three vs. three in terms of capital ships, though, maybe the objectives benefits outweigh that disadvantage?