An expectation of self-defense would start with the weapon always being in stun setting unless the user selects otherwise.Of course it's self defense. When someone has a deadly weapon in your face and has threatened lethal force, forcing you into a position where you have to unholster a secured side arm one handed under a table withot looking, an expection of also being expected to change the weapon's setting in that scenario is not even remotely reasonable.
That also assumes stun is equally useful against all potential threats, which given canon examples of different disabling weapons for organics and droids isn't true or reasonable.
Edited by 2P51