So, I've recently had issues with my RP group. During a session, the GM and other players will often have side bar conversations for about 10-20 min. Also, I am continually ignored and often have to repeat myself. I have been encouraged by the GM to read the rules so he can focus more on the story. When I remind others that I said something 2-3 times or bring up a rule, I'm called rude and childish because I may have a short, gruff response.

Am I totally off base, or should I find a new group?

Hmm. From my perspective, your low moments are dangerously low. How much fun do you have with these same individuals? Even if they are the only group around, I do not think it would be worth the grief to stay with them if you are not having fun. I feel that you could find a better use for your time if you are constantly pushed aside.

The issue is that the GM is having the side bar as well. If that wasn't the case then I'd bring it to him, but it seems he's alright with them as well.

That being said I'd try and make sure I understood exactly what kind of game they were after. If they're alright with getting very little done in a game then I'd say try and let it slide, try and repeat yourself only once, and when they come back in focus repeat yourself again.

If that isn't the case, they want a heavy game, then tell them they aren't helping themselves with this side stuff, and if they get uppity leave.

woho....

it's just a game....for me game=play and fun....

try to speak with them, and ask how they want to play....otherwise, say hello and go

(respect and education is not questionable!!!)

Hmm, having side conversations is not necessarily a bad thing and sometimes it allows for a light hearted break from proceedings but there is a point when it disrupts the immersion. If you are having a 3hr gaming session then a 20 minute chat here and there can be quite a disruption and limit the amount of time available.

Additionally if you feel that you are being ignored by your GM then this is an even bigger issue. All players should be allowed some time in the spotlight and while it doesn't have to be in each session, you should get your fair allocation or at least the respect of being listened to while it is your piece.

It sounds like you are incompatible with that group and your play style doesn't fit into their current style and that is not any criticism of you in the slightest. It sounds like you are not being given enough opportunity to show what you are capable of or being given the respect as a player to go through it and would suggest you reconsider being with them.

Thanks for the comments. I recently found I'm not the only person who has had this issue. Thing is, it's the GMs wife who has never played before and keeps doing a lot of these things.. So, I guess I'll find another group.

Maybe there should be some kind of 'code of conduct' discussed before play begins and adhered to.

Thanks again!

Man having a spouse/loved one at the table is a whole other barrel to deal with.

Codes of conduct are alright if they're at least flexible for the occasional tangent.