This is not entirely related to the discussion, just my opinion on where this argument went wrong:
The thread started out looking for a rules clarification, or at least it appeared that way.
I clarified the rule.
You clarified that you were in fact, not looking for Rules As Written, but seeing if anyone interpreted them as you did.
I misunderstood, since my explanation relied on the contrast between 'In' and 'Into', and you were still using the word 'Into.' Therefore, I explained the same thing as before.
Here's where things went downhill.
At this point, you explicitly stated that you didn't care about the rules as written, which confused me because this forum subsection is for clarifying rules. I had no knowledge that you were also discussing the issue with your players.
From this point on it devolved into a series of ignored explanations, different interpretations of real-life combat, misunderstandings,and a disagreement over how important the written rules were in a primarily character-based game.
Since, personally, I'm a huge believer in following all rules as closely as possible (Since, if you disregard some of them, why bother with them at all? You need guidelines to know how you can act, and if the guidelines constantly move then you can never plan anything,) and you apparently subscribe to the philosophy of 'Realism over Abstraction' or else possibly 'Game Flow over Rules' or some other opinion, we clashed in this regard.
Seeing as this was a conflict of opinion over general playstyle, (And you had made up your mind to change the written rules with your team, though we didn't know that) the subject of argument ceased to matter.
So, yeah... In the future, I'd reccomend moving over to the House Rule subsection once you've decided to depart from the Rulebook itself, and I'll try to get the hint that you don't care about my opinion more quickly.