This game is way to fun to play to seriously.
I get hung up on the term "serious". Perhaps we take different meanings from it. I do consider myself a serious gamer in X-Wing. I am playing to win, always. From the sounds of it you encountered a D**K who happens to be serious as well. Don't let the fact that he was serious overshadow the fact he is a D**K first.
I couldn't agree more the game is way fun to play. You elude that if played seriously it's not fun. It is fun for me to play serious, in all honesty that is when I'm having the most fun. I do not make attempts to ruin your fun while I am trying to win. I look at my loses as a learning experience to find the mistakes I've made. I love having conversations on tactics, squads and the meta. I commonly cheer on my opponents after we have met for battle ( it does help my S.O.S. After all). After the match is over and we have shanked hands I love to talk to them win or lose. Either a just to get to know people or of the different parts of the match. I love to share my secrets on positioning and how I can tell exactly where a ship will land. I often help explain how I see these positions so to better their game, only if They are open to it of corse.
QFT! I cant like this enough
This ^
I enjoy games by playing to win. I play hard, but I'd never cheat or be rude to another player.
Though I'd find it helpful if my mistakes were pointed out, I don't expect to be helped along. If a mistake has been made it stands, and I'll learn from it.
After, unless the opponent was rude etc, I'd wish them all the best and probably have a good laugh about our game. I want to win, but only in a decent way. Otherwise I see no point in playing.