However I do insist the rules be followed in a competitive environment like a tournament.
I agree, tournaments should be played competitively. We should handle it like MTG tournaments for $50,000 cash prizes do: shortcuts and "casual" action statements are allowed as long as no advantage is gained. And no advantage was gained in your X-Wing example, so you should be prepared to be that guy that nobody wants to play against unless the tournament pairings force them to.